Life is an extension of one's thoughts, so if a believer's thoughts and ideas are those that bring benefit to him in this life and the Hereafter, then he will prosper and rejoice; otherwise, the opposite will be the case.

Thus, when one is kind and generous to another person – regardless of whether that person is owed a favor or not -- one should realise that he is in fact doing that particular action for the sake of Allah The Almighty (i.e., expecting reward from Him only), so one should be indifferent to receiving any appreciation in return for the favor. Allah The Almighty Says regarding His close and special slaves (what means): {“(Saying): We feed you seeking Allah's Countenance only. We wish for no reward, nor thanks from you.”}[Quran, 77: 9] This applies even more when one is dealing with one's children, wife, or anyone else with whom one has a close relationship.